vixenesque93: (all you need)
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Aww...look. A writer's block topic I can actually talk about.

Sure, anyone should be able to bear children if they want to. We already tried restricting people from having children based on various "undesirable" factors (including race), but when a certain European dictator heard about the eugenic philosophies being discussed in academic circles...well, we all know what happened next.

But if you want to *raise* said children...well, we already have restrictions in place. No beating/starving/neglecting them. Feed, clothe, nurture, educate, keep them healthy and make sure they grow into adults who aren't complete and total assholes. And remember, they call it the hardest job in the world for a goddamn reason--so don't look so shocked when someone says they don't want them.

Yeah, there's some folks who don't like children at all (or the people who choose to have them). As [ profile] lupabitch put it, that vitriol is a backlash against the social privileges afforded to parents. Until recently, there really wasn't much of a social place for people without children in this culture; that's a relatively new phenomenon. Because that pretty well sums it up. Until the advent of birth control, if you had no children it was assumed you were either 1) unmarried or 2) incapable. Voluntarily not having children has only really been an option for a couple generations, and is still uncommon enough to be regarded with suspicion (especially if you're female. Dammit.).

Supposedly, I'm supposed to be having a biological clock going off soon. Mine peaked about a decade ago and has been declining ever since.
vixenesque93: (boom de yada)
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Planning for the future? It depends on what kind of planning.

7PM EDIT: I stopped and thought about this entry and really felt like I hadn't put enough planning into it. Yes, seriously. Guess my sign.

Household/living: Well, in some ways I already decided. I made my permanent family planning decisions a few years ago (with a great deal of thought ahead of time), so no children will be coming from my body barring a major tubal failure. Likewise I won't be living with anyone who has them. So what's that house going to look like? I don't know as I've entirely decided yet. M and I have talked about getting a bigger space and eventually I would like to. There definitely won't be any more cats in the household until we have a larger space.

Financially--yes, I do this quite a bit. I worry about having to be financially dependent on others. Hell, I don't even like being financially dependent on [ profile] glitch25. Self-sufficiency is a point of pride with me. And while it can suck sometimes to have to think "I can't do X or Y fun thing because I need to put money into savings" (I've been there) it sucks waaaaaaay less than "I'm absolutely fucked because I don't have emergency savings for a sudden expense/job loss/other catastrophe". I can't plan for everything but I owe it to myself and my partner to make the effort.

I think I could stay at my job a long time, but then again I said that about my last job. So we'll see.

So am I ever spontaneous? YES! Just not with things that matter. Dancing in public? Sure. Smiling at a stranger? You betcha. Picking up and moving to another country all of a sudden? Yeah not so much.


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