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vixenesque93It's been one hell of a weekend. No, let's amend that. One hell of a week.
Dammit, sometimes I even get frustrated with myself. I'm finally getting my scattered-ness back together and am able to focus and articulate my thoughts. I've been feeling particularly upset at a lot of issues (and by extension, a few people).
The things that are upsetting/frustrating/etc:
-seeing that people don't change. Even jerks. And you know what? That's kind of sad. Because sooner or later the jerks will be all alone or stooping to pathetic levels. I've seen this happen several times, in radically different social circles. Hell, I've seen it in my own damn family (ex-stepfather's hilariously pathetic internet personal ad stands out as one example). But of course, no one wants to admit to themselves that they are the reason people don't like them. And why should they? It's easier to blame other people/astrology/the economy/waking up on the wrong side of the bed/lousy childhood than to own up to the fact that the large part of their problems are self-inflicted.
And sooner or later, people will get tired of their bullshit.
-seeing people complain about their situation one day then actively continue to make the situation worse the next, or refuse to do anything/take any advice that might actually improve their situation. If you're going to whine about the effects of action A publically, and then later state how you're still doing action A, there's a problem. Because you're still willfully harming yourself. Either you're acutely aware that you're hurting yourself and you don't care, or you're that blinded that you honestly have no clue. More likely a combination of both. I watched my mom complain for years about her second marriage (it was a pretty shitty situation) before she did anything about it.
An extension of this comes up on some LJ communities: poster with incredibly awful situation posts asking for help. Responders post with incredibly practical advice, OP makes excuses as to why they can't do that. Repeat over and over until no other practical solutions are left because they've all been shot down. Well, unless you've got a fairy godmother waiting around somewhere, you're a bit screwed now aren't ya? That candle you light for your job spell isn't going to do shit if there's no resume going out with it. Now-does this mean that magic doesn't work? Nah, I wouldn't say that. But I don't see it as something to be relied upon-it's a helping hand, but the gods aren't going to do the hard work for you. Same goes with any type of prayer. There's a saying that goes "God helps those who help themselves". Simplistic and yet true.
And now that I've written all this and gotten it off my chest, I may actually be able to get a decent night's sleep.
Dammit, sometimes I even get frustrated with myself. I'm finally getting my scattered-ness back together and am able to focus and articulate my thoughts. I've been feeling particularly upset at a lot of issues (and by extension, a few people).
The things that are upsetting/frustrating/etc:
-seeing that people don't change. Even jerks. And you know what? That's kind of sad. Because sooner or later the jerks will be all alone or stooping to pathetic levels. I've seen this happen several times, in radically different social circles. Hell, I've seen it in my own damn family (ex-stepfather's hilariously pathetic internet personal ad stands out as one example). But of course, no one wants to admit to themselves that they are the reason people don't like them. And why should they? It's easier to blame other people/astrology/the economy/waking up on the wrong side of the bed/lousy childhood than to own up to the fact that the large part of their problems are self-inflicted.
And sooner or later, people will get tired of their bullshit.
-seeing people complain about their situation one day then actively continue to make the situation worse the next, or refuse to do anything/take any advice that might actually improve their situation. If you're going to whine about the effects of action A publically, and then later state how you're still doing action A, there's a problem. Because you're still willfully harming yourself. Either you're acutely aware that you're hurting yourself and you don't care, or you're that blinded that you honestly have no clue. More likely a combination of both. I watched my mom complain for years about her second marriage (it was a pretty shitty situation) before she did anything about it.
An extension of this comes up on some LJ communities: poster with incredibly awful situation posts asking for help. Responders post with incredibly practical advice, OP makes excuses as to why they can't do that. Repeat over and over until no other practical solutions are left because they've all been shot down. Well, unless you've got a fairy godmother waiting around somewhere, you're a bit screwed now aren't ya? That candle you light for your job spell isn't going to do shit if there's no resume going out with it. Now-does this mean that magic doesn't work? Nah, I wouldn't say that. But I don't see it as something to be relied upon-it's a helping hand, but the gods aren't going to do the hard work for you. Same goes with any type of prayer. There's a saying that goes "God helps those who help themselves". Simplistic and yet true.
And now that I've written all this and gotten it off my chest, I may actually be able to get a decent night's sleep.
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Date: 2008-08-06 12:06 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-08-06 12:07 am (UTC)I'm not a fan myself. Too spicy for me.
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Date: 2008-08-06 12:15 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-08-06 12:13 am (UTC)Of course, if someone is feeling down for whatever reason, advice may not be what they need when they rant, they simply need a good therapeutic vent. This post would be an example of that. After all, you indicated that you felt better for having wrote it, no?
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Date: 2008-08-06 12:16 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-08-06 12:21 am (UTC)I like to think of myself as a noble whipping boy.
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Date: 2008-08-06 12:31 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-08-06 01:42 am (UTC)Re: truth and consequences
Date: 2008-08-06 03:31 pm (UTC)I had never really though of it that way.
Thanks for the analogies.
-Angela
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Date: 2008-08-06 05:14 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-08-06 06:58 am (UTC)That requires wearing panties.
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Date: 2008-08-07 11:35 am (UTC)This was a really helpful post for me because I've been toying with picking up a friendship that ended about a year and a half ago due to this very same reason. She really WAS close friend, and I'd like to know if she's changed, but I don't know if I can go through that negativity again . . .